Quantum Entanglement
“I feel I’ve known you forever”.
I’ve had several clients painfully reveal to me that there is a romantic person from their past they can’t seem to let go of emotionally. They berate themselves for not being able to “move forward”, and worry deeply that this somehow implied dissatisfaction in their current relationship, or that there is something “bad” about them. They’re tormented by this secret, terrified that if their partner found out they were plagued by these memories and dreams and longings, they would suffer unbearable loss.
I hold a somewhat different perspective on this, one in which we have permission to accept the permanence of that prior relationship without feeling guilt for it. I think of it an invisible tattoo, indelibly etched into us because it held meaning to us at the time, but that we can still build around without beating ourselves up for.
Quantum physics helps us to understand that we are all interconnected to one another, and an evolving theory of Quantum Entanglement helps us to understand the ways in which our cellular particles “resonate” with some people (helping us to understand why, at times, we feel we’ve “known someone forever”) and become permanently intertwined. Einstein himself theorized upon this, calling the activation of behaviors across vast distances between two objects as “spooky action at a distance”.
For those that feel this is too much spiritual woo-woo, another bit of research supports the exchange of cellular material: Microchimerism. This is the science supporting the bi-directional transfer of cells between the mother and fetus, starting several weeks into gestation, and in some cases remain lurking in the maternal bloodstream for decades after the birth. (Fascinatingly, the mother can then “transfer” some of the cells of the first child into the later ones, or pass along grandmother cells into her own progeny)
So we can forgive ourselves of ”fault” for having people from our past linger in our souls and minds, and of the obligation to try and purge them, and instead move on to create more resonance with the people we chose here and now.